Celebs are at it
The UK census has yet to give exact figures, but already there are reported to be at least 167,000 same-sex family units in the United States. With high-profile couples choosing a mixture of adoption, surrogacy and donor insemination, the patchwork of twenty-first century family groupings is becoming encouragingly diverse.
Ricky Martin stopped ‘Livin’ la vida loca’ and settled down to have twin boys. The move to fatherhood and the love he felt for his kids induced the singer to come out of the closet, posting on his website:
“I am the father of two beautiful boys who are so full of light and who, with their outlook, teach me new things every day. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today, I take full responsibility for my decisions and actions.
What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word ‘happiness’ takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.
I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.”
Cynthia Nixon, red-haired star of Sex in the City, is bravely out the closet with her partner and has two children, Samantha and Charlie.
In an interview with an American magazine she said: “My kids have four parents, including my girlfriend and ex-husband, Danny Mozes, and his partner. The more parents the better, you know. The more time you have for your kids, the better. I don’t think you have to be a stay-at-home mom to have time for them.
Too many parents try to make kids super-achievers rather than just sitting with them, looking at them. It’s a balance. And I’m a working mother and the daughter of a working mother, and she’s wasn’t there to pick me up from school, but she was on the other end of the phone any time I needed to talk to her.”
Sir Elton John
Sir Elton John and filmmaker/producer David Furnish presented baby Zackary Jackson Levon to the world via a magazine exclusive, the fees for which went to charity.
The proud parents were delighted with their surrogacy, which used a mixture of both their sperm so that they do not know which of them has fathered the baby. When asked to comment on holding his child for the first time, music legend Elton said: “I’ve never felt anything like it in my life. You’re so
awestruck; I will never forget that feeling, ever.”
American singer/songwriter Melissa Etheridge and her partner, filmmaker Julie Cypher, have two young children, Bailey Jean and Beckett. Cypher was the birth mother, using sperm donor friend, rock star David Crosby, (with the blessing of his wife). Etheridge has formally adopted both children.
Despite the children’s biological father living fairly far away, the couple have many male friends… “and one whom we consider their male role model, so they get a taste of being with that sort of energy on a regular basis.” Etheridge said that the children have two loving parents in the home and she thinks that puts them ahead of the game, but that “this isn’t two kids and happily ever after. It’s a day- to-day commitment, and work, and communication… And it’s hard.”
Jodie Foster has never come out as gay and does not talk to the press about her children and partner. However, she recently gave readers an insight into her and her mum Brandy’s relationship when it comes to parenting.
“The hardest time we ever had was when the kids were young,” she explained. “For Brandy, I think it was about ‘you’re leaving me’ and ‘we’re not doing this together.’ I wasn’t gonna pick the [baby] name she wanted; I wasn’t gonna do it the way she wanted. And she saw it as a rejection of how she raised us.” There was a ‘test of wills’, from “breast-feeding to everything”.
Neil Patrick Harris
Since becoming a same-sex parent, American TV and film star, Neil Patrick Harris, has told US audiences: “I’ve never been happier,” during an appearance on The Talk show,
recently. Harris, 37, star of US hit shows Doogie Houser MD and How I Met Your Mother, has become a father to twins with his partner David Burtka. The babies, Gideon Scott and Harper Grace, were born via a surrogate and appear to have very different personalities.
Harris described the boy as “a great burper” while their daughter is “a bit fussier”.